Emotions are a funny thing. They can drive us to tears of joy one minute and into a fit of rage the next.
All my life, I’ve been a crier. I cry when I’m frustrated. I cry when I’m happy. I cry when I’m sad, when I’m mad, when I’m stressed, when I’m tired. I cry when Cedric Diggory dies. Every. Single. Time. I cried at both of my sister’s high school graduations, and every Sunday at church. And just looking at my adorable grandfather brings me to tears. This might seem like I’m always crying … And honestly, that wouldn’t be that far from the truth.
For a long time I thought that this was a personality flaw – a weakness that I had to control and fix. Have you ever tried to make your point during an argument with tears rolling down your face as you gasp for air and try to string your thoughts together into coherent, meaningful sentences? Not only is it not cute, but it can be extremely frustrating.
My emotions can and have gotten me into trouble. They’ve built walls up between me and the people that I love. They’ve turned me into a blubbering, incoherent idiot. They’ve made me say things in a fit of anger that I could never fully take back, no matter how many times I apologized. So you can see why being overly emotional can make a person feel faulty.
The truth is, keeping your emotions in check – especially as a woman to avoid the always infuriating (albeit sometimes accurate) ‘Are you on your period?’ – is a positive skill to hone for both professional and personal relationships. This is something I’m working at everyday. It wasn’t until recently, though, that I realized how lucky I am to have such a profound capacity for feeling all the feels.
Being emotional can actually be really awesome.
It means that we – emotional people – feel things so much more deeply. And although that means with sadness or loss comes gut-wrenching devastation, we also experience happiness and excitement with great intensity. Which is cool for both you and the people around you because you become a go-to person for exciting news. And there are few things I love more than knowing something exciting before anyone else does, heh.
Being emotional grants us a great capacity for sympathy and empathy. Which can also make you a go-to person for bad news, as well. It’s a true art to be able to celebrate someone’s successes with them and also cry alongside them during failures. And I’m thinking of all the incredible people in my life that do just that for me (you know who you are xx).
As we get older, inevitably, our relationships with people grow deeper and more meaningful. And sometimes that scares the shit out of me. I feel so much love for my family, my boyfriend and my close friends that I often think my heart might explode. But how awesome is it that I have people in my life that give me so many reasons to feel overwhelming amounts of love?
I for one think it’s pretty cool that I can cry just as hard to a sad movie as I can when someone tells me really great news. And if you’re anything like me, you should think it’s pretty cool, too.
So, my emotional equals, I encourage you to embrace your feelings. If something moves you to tears, really let yourself feel it – even if it’s sad tears and not happy ones. Revel in the fact that we can feel things at all. Emotions are a funny thing. But then again, so is life.